I find that, watching the same movies over and over again as I get progressively older– brings new perspective. It makes me realize the things I couldn’t have possibly understood at age 10, 15,17, or even at 20 for that matter.
Someone once said to me “You jump I jump.” at the time I didn’t realize it was a quote from the movie Titanic, it was said by Jack, as he was imploring Rose to come back from dangling over the edge of the stern. And as we all know, Rose— doesn’t jump and the movie goes on to create one of the MOST poetic and romantic yet tragically sad love stories of all time.
But there are things that the Titanic has taught me, about life, love, and the stupidity of people in 1912. Especially the stupidity of people in 1912– but there are stupid people no matter what era you live in, pretentious people, sexist people.
I’ve found that looking at the inspiring messages mean more than anything else. One of my favorite quotes (Other than “you jump I jump”) is one that was said towards the end of the movie, by the elderly portrayal of Rose. It is so poetically beautiful and somehow so true, that it can make your heart ache. This is near the end of her story when she reveals that, she has never spoken of her true love— and that because there is no record of him having ever existed; her memory is the only thing that still keeps him alive.
“No, there wouldn’t be, would there? And I’ve never spoken of him until now… Not to anyone… Not even your grandfather… A woman’s heart is a deep ocean of secrets. But now you know there was a man named Jack Dawson and that he saved me… in every way that a person can be saved. I don’t even have a picture of him. He exists now… only in my memory.”
A woman’s heart is a deep ocean of secrets, That– well that is the part that stands out to me the most I suppose because it means the most to me as a person, for I too truly believe that there can be that one absolute in your life that can save you and I mean truly save you. In every single way that a person can be saved– because that’s what love is to me, great romances such as the tragedy of the Titanic show those parallels in a person’s real honest to god life. The characters and principles behind their creation move me to tears by the final scene of the movie every single time, simply because Rose kept her promise to the man that she was inexplicably and undeniably, totally and completely,utterly in love with.
Rose had promised to live a full life and to never let go– Jack Dawson was a freeing spirit his character and shared life experiences, were put there to teach us as viewers to never regret a single damn thing about your life; to pursue and follow all your wants and dreams because you never know, how long you have on this planet— so there is no need to waste your time on earth hating the life you live.
All tragic romances, well we know how they end– we know that Jack dies and Rose lives, we know that Titanic sinks and over 1,500 people die simply because there were not enough life boats to accommodate the ships capacity. We know the captain of the Titanic as well as it’s creator go down with the ship and die because in those days that was the “honorable” thing to do. We know that more people could have been saved from the water, had the life boats turned around after the ship had finally gone down. These are the truths that we know.
But there is so much that we do not know because the Titanic went down over 100 years ago. Jack and Rose are not real people, but their story could be anyone’s story, In a sense it is mine.
I find that there are parallels to my life as well, and I suppose that means the creator of the movie did a hell of a job making the story relatable to the masses— as any great story-teller would.
Often I find myself day dreaming about the Titanic, what it would have been like to have been a passenger, what the time period would have meant for me as a woman. but more importantly I find myself yearning for a love like the one that Jack and Rose had. Even though I know it wasn’t real. As humans we all want a love like that.
A love that is so strong, so deep and so powerful, that you would risk everything, your life, your sanity, everything. just to be with that person because the thought of being without this person is in your mind a fate worse than death. A love that powerful is overwhelming yet so pure, one could only hope that we too could have a romance like the one we see on the silver screen.
I know that it is foolish to try to compare a real life romance to a fictional one, yet it is our basic human instinct to want to have something as poetic as the romance of Jack and Rose. We want to live in the imaginary rather than the real or the ordinary.
Love can touch us one time
And last for a lifetime
And never let go till we’re gone
Love was when I loved you
One true time I hold to
In my life we’ll always go on
Those have never been more accurate, it seemed only fitting that the song my heart will go on, was not only the theme for the movie, but the music without the vocals happens to be Rose’s “theme song”.
The lyrics are simply the most beautiful, and poetic yet truthful words that could be put on paper. I firmly believe that, which is why I also believe that one must watch this movie because it will teach you powerful lessons, and move you in an emotional way that is unfathomable because you’ll realize how absoute and true the messages are.